Freedom within limits- Montessori parenting pillars

Remember the days your house is filled with clutter or you visit an overbearing relative, or the time your parents restricted you from doing something? How did you feel then?
The point I’m trying to make is, one cannot flourish, work with purpose or think effectively in an environment we don’t feel completely comfortable of free in. Now that we have established that the child flourishes in a rich environment that she explores and learns from, herself, we realise that the child, a lot like adults needs freedom. Guided freedom or freedom within a framework of limits.Freedom and discipline are two sides of the same coin, and scientific freedom invariably leads to discipline.

“To let the child do as he likes, when he has not yet developed any powers of control, is to betray the idea of freedom.”

Maria Montessori, The Absorbent Mind

We do a great disservice to the developing child if we do’t provide her, some clear boundaries within which she can explore freedom.… Click to read the rest

Montessori at home- Help me help myself

Before we proceed into the topic of montessori space at home, let’s do a small exercise.

Imagine, you’ve just joined (or re-joined) work. Today is the first day at work. You are excited, anxious and happy. You cannot wait to explore all there is and establish your talent and prowess. Once you enter, however, you realise that your manager is a giant, literally. The table you work at is humongous, you cannot reach your files or the regulator or coffee machine or AC remote. Every time you need to switch on or off your PC, need a coffee break, feel too hot or cold, you need to ask your manager to help you.
At one point of time, your manager gets tired of you asking, and snaps at you, ” You know what, let it be! I’ll make your coffee myself! And I’ll switch off your PC myself!”” But I want to do it”, you think.… Click to read the rest

Zen parenting- Lessons from my toddler’s questions

I almost started writing about our lessons at the zoo. But today I wind up the Blogchatter A2Z challenge, something I never thought I could get through halfway. The theme was child-led study units that started with questions V asked. For this last post, I’m going to summarize the world of good it has done me, as a parent.

Lessons in letting go of control

Although I taught in a mainstream school with differentiated instruction, we did have a set curriculum that helped me plan my lessons. Early learning is however a different ballgame altogether. I’ve had to learn to let go of the desire to plan every moment and let her take charge of her learning. I only have to facilitate connections in her brain from the environment.

Appreciating the little miracles

I think as adults, we just stop noticing the spirals in the way the fern leaves curl, goats licking their kids, the wonderful symmetry of leaves and animals, the colour of skies, etc.… Click to read the rest