Freedom within limits- Montessori parenting pillars

Remember the days your house is filled with clutter or you visit an overbearing relative, or the time your parents restricted you from doing something? How did you feel then?
The point I’m trying to make is, one cannot flourish, work with purpose or think effectively in an environment we don’t feel completely comfortable of free in. Now that we have established that the child flourishes in a rich environment that she explores and learns from, herself, we realise that the child, a lot like adults needs freedom. Guided freedom or freedom within a framework of limits.Freedom and discipline are two sides of the same coin, and scientific freedom invariably leads to discipline.

“To let the child do as he likes, when he has not yet developed any powers of control, is to betray the idea of freedom.”

Maria Montessori, The Absorbent Mind

We do a great disservice to the developing child if we do’t provide her, some clear boundaries within which she can explore freedom.… Click to read the rest

Setting up a montessori playroom at home

Setting up a learning space or playroom at home can be daunting. It can teach you a lot of things about your child and offers you the opportunity to learn those that you don’t.We have moved 3 houses since V’s birth and she isn’t even 3 years old yet. Which means, I’ve set up her space thrice- the first time, it was just a corner of the dining area, the other two times, we’ve been lucky to have a room. This has also given me a chance to introspect the differences between an infant play area and a toddler play room.

“The environment must be rich in motives which lend interest to activity and invite the child to conduct his own experiences.” 

Maria Montessori

Here are my top 10 important pointers to bear in mind while setting up a playroom for the child. The good news is you can take what you like and what is feasible and modify it according to your child.… Click to read the rest

Montessori at home- Help me help myself

Before we proceed into the topic of montessori space at home, let’s do a small exercise.

Imagine, you’ve just joined (or re-joined) work. Today is the first day at work. You are excited, anxious and happy. You cannot wait to explore all there is and establish your talent and prowess. Once you enter, however, you realise that your manager is a giant, literally. The table you work at is humongous, you cannot reach your files or the regulator or coffee machine or AC remote. Every time you need to switch on or off your PC, need a coffee break, feel too hot or cold, you need to ask your manager to help you.
At one point of time, your manager gets tired of you asking, and snaps at you, ” You know what, let it be! I’ll make your coffee myself! And I’ll switch off your PC myself!”” But I want to do it”, you think.… Click to read the rest